No Maps for Rivers

Why do we judge our journey like a river judging its curves?
What if every twist, slow drift, or rapid in your life was never a flaw—but a feature?

You Are Not Broken

You are not behind.
You are not “too much.”

You are a river.
Some days you bend.
Some days you roar.
Some days you barely move.

And all of it—every turn and flow—is part of your perfect design.

Don’t Straighten What Was Meant to Flow

We waste too much energy trying to move like someone else.
Comparing speed. Mimicking style. Judging every curve.

But rivers don’t compete. They carve.
They shape landscapes by being exactly what they are.

So maybe today’s permission is this:
Stop straightening. Start flowing.

💬 Share Your Curve

👉 What’s a part of your journey that once felt wrong, but ended up shaping who you are?
Drop it in the comments or email me: michaelking@kingofhabits.com

Not Welcomed: When Rejection Is a Revelation

If you’ve ever walked into a room and felt like the air shifted against you—this is for you. If you've been left out, shut down, or told you're "too much," maybe it’s not rejection. Maybe it’s a revelation. You weren’t made to fit in… you were made to wake up the room.

The Pattern That Haunts Us

Some of us carry a quiet ache.
Not for success. Not for fame.
Just to belong.

But everywhere we go—church, job, family, friend circles—it feels like we’re out of sync. Like we showed up with a heart too open, a voice too loud, a presence too much.

“Why am I never welcomed?”

That question starts early.
For me, it started with my father.
Then school. Then marriage. Then band life.
Even now—in places built for healing and worship—I feel unseen or shoved aside.

Is It Me? Or Is It God?

I asked God this week, “Is there something wrong with me?”
What I heard back wasn’t shame. It was strategy.

“I’m not punishing you. I’m protecting the mission.”

What if the rooms we keep getting rejected from are the very ones we’re not meant to be in?
What if being shut out is really God setting you apart?

The Unseen Gift of Unwelcomed Souls

Being unwelcomed does something to a man.
It forges him.
It burns off the need to please.
It sharpens discernment.
It deepens prayer.

You stop needing stage lights.
You start craving truth.

You don’t beg for seats at tables.
You build your own.

And suddenly… you realize:
You weren’t created to be accepted.
You were called to disrupt the pattern.

But Also—Look Inward

I won’t lie. There are still things I have to face.

• Do I overpower conversations?

• Am I over-involved to feel needed?

• Do I talk more than I listen?

• Am I addicted to being “the fixer”?

Humility doesn’t mean hating yourself.
It means owning your shadow—and bringing it into the light.

The Bigger Story

This isn’t just about me.
It’s for every man or woman who has ever sat in their car and said:

“Why does it always feel like I’m the outsider?”

Maybe because you are.
And maybe that’s not a curse.
It’s a commission.

Bottom Line

Don’t let rejection make you bitter.
Let it make you bold.

Don’t wait to be welcomed.
Start becoming the kind of person who welcomes others.
Because the most powerful people in the world are the ones who know what it feels like to be left out…
…and choose to never let anyone else feel that way again.

Verse:

“The stone the builders rejected has become the cornerstone.” – Psalm 118:22

When the Body Says Run: The Shocking Truth About Fight-or-Flight

You think fear is in your head? Think again.
Your body knows the threat before your mind catches up. From dry tears to lost breath, fight-or-flight doesn’t ask — it takes over.

We’re Not As In Control As We Think

Ever tried drinking water while angry? You can’t.
Ever tried taking a deep breath while panicking? You won’t.
Because your body isn’t asking for calm. It’s preparing for war.

Here’s what the fight-or-flight response really does when it takes over:

1. You can’t cry real tears

Your tear ducts shut down. Rage-crying feels dry and tight because the body doesn't register emotion — only emergency.

2. Your bladder might empty

In extreme fear, your body literally dumps “extra weight” to escape faster. This is primal, built for survival.

3. Digestion stops

That sick feeling in your stomach before a stressful moment? Blood is leaving your gut. Digestion is on hold.

4. Tunnel hearing kicks in

Your brain focuses on threat only. Conversations, names, music? Gone. It’s why you feel zoned out.

5. Time slows down

You’re not imagining it. Adrenaline sharpens awareness and increases perception speed. It feels like slow motion because you're catching more detail per second.

6. You lose fine motor skills

Can’t tie your shoes or open a door while panicking? That’s because your brain is powering your legs, not your fingers.

7. Skin goes pale

Blood gets diverted to vital organs and muscles. Your skin goes cold and white — not from emotion, but from instinct.

Quote to Sit With:

“You don’t rise to the occasion, you fall to the level of your training.”
— Archilochus

Verse to Anchor You:

“Be still, and know that I am God.”
— Psalm 46:10

Stillness doesn’t come naturally in chaos.
It must be chosen.
It must be trained.

The Bottom Line

Your body is built to survive.
But if you want to live — breathe.
Drink.
Be still.

And take the time to teach your body what safety feels like — so when chaos hits, it knows how to respond.

Grab the Jacket: How the Brain Handles Discomfort Without the Drama

Your body already knows how to handle discomfort—so why does your heart forget? From cold air to cold relationships, the same logic applies: if you’re cold, grab the jacket. Don’t overthink the signal. Respond to it. Life gets lighter when we learn to meet our needs instead of ignoring them.

The Everyday Wisdom of Being Cold

You step outside in a t-shirt and shorts. The air hits—cold and sharp. Without thinking, you reach for a jacket.

No self-blame. No shame. No long discussion.
You were cold. You fixed it.

That’s threat assessment in motion—your brain picking up a problem and directing your body to solve it. No drama. Just correction.

The Emotional Side of That Jacket

Here’s where it hits deeper.

What if the discomfort isn’t physical?
What if it’s emotional, spiritual, or relational?

Do you still grab the jacket—or do you sit in the cold and call it normal?

Most of us endure emotional cold far too long. We overthink. We suppress. We try to be strong when we really just need to warm up. But strength isn’t ignoring discomfort—it’s responding to it.

Life Applications of This Simple Truth

• You feel distant in your relationship? Reach out. Say what needs to be said.

• You’re spiritually dry? Don’t wait for a miracle—crack open the Bible, get quiet, and listen.

• You feel unseen or unvalued? Don’t isolate—engage, ask questions, and remind yourself of your worth.

The cold isn't the problem. Sitting in it is.

It’s Not a Crisis. It’s a Signal.

Lack of love, joy, clarity, or peace is not failure—it’s a signal.
Your body, your spirit, your mind—they're all saying: “Something’s off.”

You don’t need to fix everything. You just need to respond.
Start with warmth. Start with truth. Start with movement.

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it—and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”
— Marcus Aurelius

“If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.”
— James 1:5 (ESV)

Bottom Line

If you’re cold—grab the jacket.
If your soul is cold—grab the truth.
Life isn’t waiting to fix you. It’s waiting for you to respond to what you already know deep down.

You were never meant to live in the cold.

☀️ SUNDAY RESET: 12 Habits That’ll Make You Unstoppable (or at Least Less Scatterbrained)

Some days you’re sharp. Other days… you're staring at the fridge wondering why you're in there.

Here’s your Sunday morning pick-me-up — 12 simple habits that’ll help you lock in, chill out, and actually rememberwhy you walked into that room.

1. 💧 Hydrate Like You Mean It

Tall glass of water right when you wake up. Your brain is basically a raisin until you do.

2. ⏰ Wake Up Before the Noise

Early morning peace is like a cheat code. More clarity. Less chaos. Just you and that quiet stillness.

3. 📵 No Phone for 30 Minutes

Don’t start your day in a scroll-hole. Let your mind warm up before the world shouts at it.

4. 📓 Three-Thing Plan

Write down 3 things you want to get done today. That’s your mission. Keep it simple. Win early.

5. 🏃‍♂️ Move Something

Stretch. Walk. Pace while brushing your teeth. Movement wakes your body and clears the cobwebs.

6. 🍳 Eat Like You’ve Got Stuff to Do

Clean, simple meals. Protein. Fruit. Eggs. Things with real names, not 37 ingredients and a mascot.

7. ☀️ Touch the Sun

Step outside. Even for a minute. Light hits your eyes, your brain goes, “Ohhh, right… let’s live.”

8. 🧘‍♂️ Five Minutes of Nothing

Sit. Breathe. Listen to the fridge hum. Your mind needs white space to think straight.

9. ✍️ Brain Dump

Jot down whatever’s swirling in your head. Ideas, to-dos, overthinking — get it on paper, not stuck in your skull.

10. 📖 Read Something Real

Ten minutes. Book, Bible, magazine, article. Fuel the mind before the memes.

11. ☕ Cut the Caffeine at 2PM

It’s hard to be clear-headed when your sleep is a train wreck. Protect the wind-down.

12. 🌙 Sleep Like It’s Sacred

Screens off. Lights low. Slow down. Focus starts with real rest.

Pick 3 today. Try them this week.
And if it all goes off the rails? That’s fine. Sunday’s comin’ back around.

You’re not broken. You’re building.

🌱 The Companion Named Hope

By Michael King

In a world built on results, deadlines, and guarantees, hope often feels like a fragile thing—something reserved for the naïve or the desperate. But what if that’s all wrong?

What if hope isn’t about wishing?
What if it’s about walking?

Hope Isn’t a Result—It’s a Relationship

We’ve been taught to treat hope like a reward. You hope something turns out well. You hope things change. You hope life works out.

But the kind of hope that endures doesn’t hang on outcomes. It isn’t a finish line. It’s a companion.
One you carry with you into hard seasons, messy transitions, or long rebuilds.

Real hope shows up without proof.

Hope and Grief Can Coexist

There’s a quiet kind of hope that isn’t loud or shiny. It doesn’t erase pain—it walks with it.

This kind of hope holds hands with:

• Grief – the ache for what was

• Love – the drive to keep going

• Uncertainty – the space where growth begins

Hope doesn’t ask you to be okay. It just asks you to keep showing up.

Rooted Hope Starts in the Dirt

You don’t need a grand reason to believe in something better. Sometimes hope looks like:

• Watching birds return to your fence

• Taking your shoes off and feeling the ground

• Cooking a meal with care

• Checking in on someone who hasn’t been okay

These things aren’t flashy. But they’re sacred. And they remind us that life responds to attention.

Hope is found in the doing, not just the dreaming.

The Practice of Hope

Here’s the truth: you don’t have to feel hopeful to practice hope.

You can:

• Speak kindness even if you're bitter

• Create even when you’re tired

• Pray even when you’re unsure

• Start again, even when it hurts

That is hope. Not blind belief. But daily courage.

Final Thought

Hope doesn’t promise ease. It promises presence.
It doesn’t erase the unknown. It says, “Walk with me anyway.”

You don’t need the full plan.
You don’t need a map.
You just need one step…
and a companion called hope.

📖 Holding onto Hope: A Word from Scripture

“Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for He who promised is faithful.”
— Hebrews 10:23 (NIV)

🔍 What It Means:

• "Hold unswervingly" means to stay steady—don’t drift or let go when life gets uncertain.

• "The hope we profess" refers to the deep-rooted faith we live by, not just in words but in how we show up each day.

• "He who promised is faithful" reminds us that our hope isn’t built on feelings or circumstances—it's anchored in a God who keeps His word.

💡 The Bottom Line:

Even when we feel shaky, hope doesn’t have to be.
We don’t hold on to hope because everything is perfect.
We hold on because God is—and He’s not letting go of us.

Momentum Beats Memory: Break Free From the Loop of Who You Used to Be

By Michael King – King of Habits
Published: July 25, 2025

If you’ve ever whispered, “I thought I’d be further by now,” you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. That weight you feel isn’t failure. It’s a signal. The truth? Your memory of the past may be what’s holding you back. Let’s change that—starting with one win today.

🔓 Why You Feel Stuck

The most dangerous form of comparison is the one we rarely notice: comparing ourselves to a past version that may not even be real.
Our brains remix the past every time we recall it. But here’s the twist—those memories are often wrong.
The mind remembers how it felt, not always what happened. This can trap you in a mental loop of shame, guilt, or regret.

You’re not stuck—you’re just attached to an outdated version of you.

💡 The Reframe That Changes Everything

Growth doesn’t come from perfect plans or perfect timing.
It comes from momentum—small, consistent wins stacked on top of each other.
You don’t need to fix everything today. You just need to win one battle: the next step.

Small wins are greater than perfect pasts.

Let go of the myth that your success has to look like your memory of someone else’s highlight reel—or your own.

🔥 The Thermostat Truth

You will only rise to the level of what you believe you deserve.
This is your internal thermostat.
If you think success is "too much" for you, your subconscious will sabotage it and bring you back to comfort—even if that comfort is struggle.

🧠 Mental Rehearsal: Train Your Mind Forward

Your body and brain operate together. If your body is in the present but your mind is still defending the past, change won’t stick.
Visualization, journaling, and affirmation aren’t fluff—they’re training tools for the brain.

Here’s the formula:
Vision (Future Self) + Action (Daily Win) = Alignment.

🛠️ Tools You Can Use Today

1. Write a letter to the old version of you. Thank them. Then let them go.

2. Journal from the future. Write like you already made it. What does life look like?

3. Celebrate today’s smallest win. Momentum isn’t flashy. It’s steady.

📚 Recommended Read (No Affiliations):

Title: Atomic Habits by James Clear
Why: It teaches how identity and small behaviors shape long-term change. Perfect if you're rebuilding, refocusing, or restarting.

💭 Final Thought

The past should be a reference point—not a residence.
You are not your story. You are the author.
Start writing the next chapter, even if it’s one sentence at a time.

From Actor to Author: Taking Back the Pen of My Life

I used to just act in my life. I wasn’t the director, the writer, or even aware of the script. I played the same scenes over and over—wake up, go to work, react to problems, settle for routine, make no plans, and repeat.

The “flow” I was in? I made it. Then I got stuck in it.

No growth. No vision. No fire. Just movement without momentum.

“The unexamined life is not worth living.”
— Socrates

But life has a way of waking you up. For me, it took failure. Not a small stumble—but a fall that forced me to face myself. And in that moment, I realized something simple:
I had to stop acting and start writing.

So, I grabbed a pen. Not literally at first, but with intention. I started journaling. Planning. Praying. I began to write a new script—not one based on regret, but one fueled by redemption.

I’m still in the early chapters. It’s messy. Honest. Hopeful. But here’s what I know:
I didn’t get this pen on my own.
I didn’t earn a second chance.
It was only by the grace of God I’m writing today.

Lamentations 3:40 (ESV) – “Let us test and examine our ways, and return to the Lord!”

The Way Forward: Turning Fear Into Fuel

By Michael King
“What stands in the way becomes the way.” — Marcus Aurelius

What if the very thing holding you back is actually the path forward?
This post dives into the power of fear, mindset, and mentorship—blending ancient wisdom, Ivy League research, and biblical truth to help reshape your direction.

The Barrier Is the Beginning

We all have those thoughts:

• “I’m not good enough.”

• “That life isn’t for people like me.”

• “I missed my window.”

And yet, we want more. For ourselves. Our children. Our community.
But many of us stop where fear starts.

So here’s the truth:
The barrier is often the blueprint.

Harvard Business Review notes:

“The most successful people aren’t those who avoid failure—they’re the ones who build from it.”

We stay stuck in “idle” not because we’re lazy—but because we’ve never seen another gear.

Success Leaves Clues

Without guidance, access, or examples, most people settle.
But abundance often follows alignment—alignment in values, discipline, and yes, faith.

Yale University states:

“Students with mentors and exposure to real-life examples of success are significantly more likely to pursue advanced education and entrepreneurship.”

So what if your life experience could become someone else’s education?

The Men I Admire Now

At this stage in life, I’ve noticed something:
The men who seem to have peace, purpose, and prosperity are almost always:

• Married

• Rooted in faith

• Active in their church and community

It didn’t come easy—but it came through commitment.
They didn’t avoid the hard road—they led on it.

Biblical Backbone

Paul wrote:

“Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works.” — Titus 2:7 (ESV)

This is the calling.
Not perfection—but presence.
Not power—but purpose.

Your Move

Let’s build a new way today.
A better one.
Not just for us—but for those watching.

The grind isn’t one path.
It can be limitless.
It can be legacy.

Where Are the Men?

by Michael King

We live in a world full of nonprofits, support groups, and crisis centers. But what if many of them exist because men didn’t show up? This isn’t about blame—it’s about responsibility. About rising. About leading.

The Silent Crisis No One Talks About

Today, the U.S. has 1.8 million nonprofit organizations. They help the homeless. Feed children. Support single mothers. Mentor young boys.

But here’s the hard truth:
Many of these programs are plugging holes left by absent men.

That truth hits home because I’ve been guilty too.
I’ve checked out. I’ve coasted. I’ve avoided responsibility.

But I’m not here to stay in guilt—I’m here to grow.
To lead.
To become the kind of man God is calling me to be.

📊 The Numbers Don’t Lie

Let these stats sink in:

• 1 in 4 children in the U.S. grow up without a father (U.S. Census Bureau)

• 85% of youth in prison had no dad in the home (National Fatherhood Initiative)

• 63% of youth suicides come from fatherless homes (CDC)

• 90% of runaways and homeless kids come from fatherless homes (NCF)

This isn’t about shame. It’s about awareness.

My Personal Reckoning

I’m not writing from a mountaintop—I’m writing from the battlefield.

I’m a man in the making. I want to do better.
And I believe that if good men get better,
and lost men stop running,
we can build something stronger than systems.

We can build homes again.

What We Really Need

• Awareness – Stop pretending everything’s fine

• Faith – Ground ourselves in something deeper than ego

• Council – Get wisdom, not just opinions

• Community – Brotherhood sharpens

• Leadership – Not flashy… but faithful

We don’t need more gurus. We need more men of grit. Men who lead by showing up. Every day.

🛠️ What We Can Do

We can’t fix everything. But we can start here:

• Get in shape

• Pray and listen

• Apologize and forgive

• Mentor a young man

• Be consistent at home

• Speak truth, not just opinions

• Trade comfort for responsibility

📖 Truth to Stand On

“Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.”
— 1 Corinthians 16:13

Final Thought

This isn’t a war on men—it’s a wake-up call for men.

If we show up, step up, and grow up, we might just see a world with fewer broken systems—because we stopped being broken ourselves.

The Strongest Man Bows Low

By Michael King
📩 michaelking@kingofhabits.com

The strongest thing a man can do...
is bow low.

Not in defeat—but in surrender.
Surrender to the Creator who formed him, shaped him, and called him for more.

It’s uncomfortable, especially for men raised to believe emotion is weakness.
The voices echo:
“Be tough.”
“Don’t cry.”
“Don’t let them see you bend.”

But that’s not truth. That’s trauma disguised as toughness.

Bending the knee to God isn’t weakness—it’s spiritual strength training.
Like a compound lift in the gym, it doesn’t make you soft—it makes you solid.
You drop ego, pride, fear, and control—and you rise up stronger in faith.

And the Hands?

Humans raise their hands instinctively.

• A child says, “Pick me up.”

• A student says, “I’m ready to speak.”

• A drowning person pleads, “Help me.”

It’s connection. Surrender. Trust.

In worship, it becomes holy.
Raising your hands is your spirit saying,
“Abba… I need You.”

It’s not a performance—it’s a posture.

📖 “I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting.”
— 1 Timothy 2:8

The Takeaway:

I’ve spent years trying to prove my strength.
But now I believe the strongest I’ll ever be… is on my knees, with my hands raised.

I’m still learning. Still lifting.
But this kind of strength?
It’s eternal.

#FaithOverFear #BiblicalManhood #SpiritualStrength #MenOfFaith #HumbleAndStrong

The Health Hustle: Why Simplicity Still Wins

Author: Michael King
Email: michaelking@kingofhabits.com

We live in a world where fitness advice sounds like a sales pitch.

“Take this supplement.”
“Avoid fruit.”
“Eat six times a day.”
“Train fasted—but only before 10 a.m.”
“Never do cardio if you want to gain muscle.”

It’s overwhelming.
But is it necessary?

The Industry vs. the Individual

The global wellness market is worth over $4.5 trillion.
Supplements alone? A $177 billion industry.

Brands thrive on confusion.
You second-guess real food because someone with abs said fruit sugar is bad.
You stop walking because a TikTok trainer told you it kills gains.

But data tells a different story.

A massive review published in Annals of Internal Medicine (2019) found that most supplements offer no benefit for longevity or disease prevention when compared to nutrients from whole foods.

Even the World Health Organization, Harvard, and the CDC agree:

• Daily movement

• Hydration

• Real, unprocessed food

• Sleep

• Stress management

No magic pills. No $200-a-month stack. No 7-phase workout split.

What Nutrients Do We Really Need?

The human body needs around 30 essential nutrients:

• Vitamins A, C, D, E, K

• B vitamins

• Calcium, iron, magnesium, zinc, selenium

• Omega-3 fatty acids

• Essential amino acids (protein)

Where do we get these?

• Fruit (yes, even with sugar)

• Vegetables

• Nuts and seeds

• Lean meats, eggs, dairy

• Whole grains

• Water

Supplements? They’re a backup, not a blueprint.
Eat like a human—not like a lab experiment—and you're covered.

Exercise: It Doesn’t Have to Be That Complicated

Men in the ancient world didn’t do bro splits or drink protein shakes.
They moved. They worked. They lifted, carried, and hunted.

Historical records and skeletal analysis show well-developed musculature from:

• Walking everywhere

• Manual labor

• Eating what they grew or hunted

• No gyms

• No snacks every two hours

Their lives were hard. Their strength was real.
We don’t need their hardship—just their simplicity.

The Simple Health Formula

Here’s what works—every time:

• Mindset: Choose better. Start small. Improve daily.

• Consistency: 3–5 days a week. Not sexy, just steady.

• Resistance Training: 2–3x/week. Use your body, bands, or weights.

• Cardio: 30 mins/day — walk, bike, stretch, move.

• Water: Half your bodyweight in ounces per day.

• Nutrition: If it grows, walks, swims, or flies — it’s probably good.

So… Is the Industry Selling Us Fear?

Yes—and no.
We’ve evolved in tools and information, but not biology.

Modern tech, supplements, and circadian hacks can optimize—but they aren’t required.

“Don’t trade the wisdom of simplicity for the confusion of marketing.”
— Michael King

💡 What If You’re Not Getting the Right Nutrition?

If you feel like something’s off—energy, sleep, digestion—consider some extra support.

⚠️ Disclaimer: I’m not a certified health coach. This is entertainment only, based on personal experience, professional guidance, and data.

When in doubt, ask your doctor or nutritionist.

🔥 Top 3 Trusted Supplement Brands (High-Quality, No BS)

1. Thorne Research

• NSF Certified for Sport

• Highly bioavailable forms

• Trusted by functional medicine docs

2. Pure Encapsulations

• Hypoallergenic, clean ingredients

• Great for sensitive systems

• Used in clinical settings

3. Garden of Life – myKind Organics

• Certified organic, whole food-based

• Vegan options

• Non-GMO, no synthetic fillers

👴 Men Over 50: Key Nutrients to Prioritize

By 50+, the body absorbs nutrients less efficiently. Focus on:

• Vitamin D3 + K2 – Bone and heart health

• Magnesium – Muscle, sleep, blood pressure

• Omega-3s – Brain, joints, inflammation

• B12 (Methylcobalamin) – Energy and nerves

• Zinc – Testosterone and immune function

• CoQ10 – Heart support (especially if on statins)

• Probiotics – Gut health and absorption

• Protein intake – Maintain muscle mass

🧠 Tip: Aging isn't weakness—it’s wisdom that needs fuel and movement.

💪 Strength Then vs. Strength Now

Ancient Era:

• Daily life was exercise

• Food was natural, seasonal

• Strength came from survival

• Leanness came from scarcity

• Movement was constant

• Health knowledge came from experience

• Muscles were useful, not flaunted

Modern World:

• Jobs are sedentary — workouts are scheduled

• Food is overly processed and available

• Strength is pursued for looks

• Overeating is easy — weight gain is common

• We sit more than we move

• Health is marketed and monetized

• Muscles are idolized — but disconnected from function

✍️ Author’s Note

I’ve battled food addiction my whole life.
Not just overeating—but obsessing, labeling everything good or bad.
I’ve tried every “fix” and still felt stuck in shame and confusion.

Then one day, it hit me—God didn’t make this complicated.

Real food. Real movement. Real rest.
We don’t need to be perfect. We need to be present.
We don’t need another rule. We need rhythm.

This blog is part of my healing.
Writing it reminds me: simplicity is power.

— Michael King, King of Habits
📧 michaelking@kingofhabits.com

Loaded at Birth, Aimed by Life, Fired by Choice

By Michael King • www.kingofhabits.com

"Genes load the gun. Environment pulls the trigger."
That statement hit me hard. It speaks to something deep: the tension between nature and nurture.

We’re all born with a mix of DNA, personality traits, tendencies—even traumas that aren’t ours but were passed down. But that’s just the loading of the gun. The rest? That’s where we come in.

🧬 The Science Behind the Saying

• Genetics account for 30-60% of our predisposition to mental health issues like depression, anxiety, or addiction.

• But environmental factors—like trauma, support systems, stress, and lifestyle—heavily influence whether those genes get “switched on.”

• According to epigenetics, your life choices can influence how your genes express themselves. Meaning: you are not doomed by your DNA.

🧠 A Quote to Chew On

"It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves." – William Shakespeare

🔑 Solutions – Turning Triggers Into Triumph

1. Create the right environment.
   Surround yourself with people, habits, and places that nurture growth. Even if your childhood was chaos, you get to design your adulthood.

2. Interrupt the cycle.
   Just because your parents did it, doesn’t mean you have to. Generational pain can stop with you—but only if you're intentional.

3. Take radical responsibility.
   Your life might not be your fault, but your future is your responsibility.

4. Build faith-based mindset tools.
   Prayer, journaling, scripture, and self-reflection build spiritual muscle. They teach you to respond, not react.

5. Rewrite your inner script.
   Start replacing “I can’t” with “I’m learning.” Instead of “This is who I am,” say “This is who I’m becoming.”

Teachable Moment:
This isn’t about blame. It’s about power.
You may be carrying loaded weapons—trauma, addiction, rage, fear—but no one forces your hand to fire. Through Christ, community, and conscious choices, you can walk a different path.

Final Thought:
Your story may have started without your permission, but the ending? That’s up to you.

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The Weight of Half-Truths

“You can only be as free as you are honest.” That line hit me like a freight train.

We think we’re free because we’ve shared “some” of the story. We’ve unpacked the battles, maybe even helped others heal—but we still keep that one thing tucked away. Untouched. Justified. Buried. Safe.

That’s not freedom. That’s selective surrender.

True strength? It’s in vulnerability. That’s not weakness—it’s weightlifting for the soul. It’s Godly. It’s mature. It’s a silent war cry to say: I quit running my own life.

Jesus never asked for your resume. He asked for your heart. Raw. Wrecked. Real.

Recovery isn’t just about staying sober. It’s about staying honest. Honest with God. With others. With yourself. Especially yourself.

Every secret you carry has weight. And most of us are limping with backpacks full of shame, regret, guilt, and pride.

But Jesus…

He says, “Come to me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28)

I’ve learned the hard way—freedom doesn’t come from traction. It comes from surrender. When I finally stop running my own life and let God take the wheel… that’s when rebirth begins.

I don't want to just survive. I want to live. But that starts with dying to myself.

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“Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one.” – Marcus Aurelius
“Confession is not about guilt. It’s about freedom.” – Michael King
“The truth will set you free.” – Jesus (John 8:32)

When Lifting Others Lifts You

by Michael King

“You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him.”
— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Don’t Degrade to Elevate

We don’t win by degrading others.
We win by lifting others—even when we’re hurting, even when we’re disappointed, even when we’re walking away.

If your ego or business strategy relies on someone else’s weakness,
you’re not strong—you’re just louder.

Your Work Should Speak Louder Than Your Mouth

Pointing out poor quality or weak performance by someone else may seem like a sales strategy...
But what if your character, your craft, and your consistency were your sales pitch?

“Real recognizes real.”
You don’t have to drag others down to stand tall.

The Relationship Mirror

Why do we speak badly about people we once loved?

Sometimes they were always that person.
Other times, we ignored the signs.
Either way, bitterness doesn’t bring healing.

Even if you had no fault in it—let your exit be honorable.
That’s where the freedom is.

When the Culture Doesn’t Fit

Sometimes you can’t fix a broken workplace.
You won’t change the leadership. You won’t shift the culture.

Don’t waste your growth trying to repair what was never designed to nourish you.
Bow out gracefully. Take the lesson. Move forward with your peace.

The Mirror Moment

I’m guilty of all of this.
I’ve spoken from pride. I’ve defended what I should’ve left. I’ve pointed instead of pausing.

But I’m learning...
The goal isn’t to be right. The goal is to be whole.

Closing Thought:

Let your work and your walk speak louder than your words.
Lift others—even the ones who couldn’t lift you.

📩 Want to reach out or share your story?
Email me: michaelking@kingofhabits.com

The Dinner Table: The Forgotten Anchor of the Family

By Michael King
www.kingofhabits.com
michaelking@kingofhabits.com

The Dinner Table Is the Family Glue

In today’s fast-paced world, the dinner table has become a relic.
But its power is still alive—we’ve just stopped sitting at it.

Let the data speak:

• Families who eat dinner together at least 3 times a week see kids with:

  • 40% better grades

  • Better emotional health

  • Lower rates of substance abuse

  • Improved self-esteem

• Children exposed to regular family meals have stronger vocabularies and fewer behavioral issues.

• Teens who gather at the table are more likely to communicate openly and feel a deeper sense of belonging.

Why Does It Matter So Much?

Because the table is more than a place to eat.
It’s a sanctuary of presence.

No screens. No drive-thru bags.
Just conversations, laughter, and the passing down of values.

It’s where:

• Fathers become leaders

• Mothers feel seen

• Children are heard

• Wisdom is passed through generations

The dinner table is where the family remembers it is a team.

How to Bring Back the Power of the Table

Start small. Think simple. Stay consistent.

7 Ways to Rebuild the Habit:

1. One meal a week—just start. Pick a night and protect it.

2. No phones, no TV—just each other.

3. Create a theme night – Pizza Friday, Memory Monday, etc.

4. Cook together – Let it be messy and full of moments.

5. Rotate the “host” – Give each family member a chance to lead or set the table.

6. Ask one intentional question – “What made you smile today?”

7. Make it matter – Light a candle, say a prayer, dress up. Honor the time.

Final Word

Like a handcrafted table, strong and built to last, your family deserves a foundation that holds.
It won’t be perfect. But it will be worth it.

Let’s make the table sacred again.
Start with one meal. Then build a rhythm. Then watch the change.

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Have a favorite table memory? A breakthrough conversation? I’d love to hear it.
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The Felony I Didn't Deserve — And Absolutely Needed

Five years and four months ago, I was arrested at the Racetrack gas station in Weatherford, TX. Sitting at pump 10. Truck off. Keys out. Sandwich in hand. I wasn’t driving. I was waiting on a ride. Still, I was charged with my third DWI.

Did I deserve it? No.
But did I need it? 100%.

The night before—May 11, 2020—I got on my knees, drunk, crying out to God: “Save me. I’m yours.” I passed out on the floor. Hopeless. Lost. Done.

The next night, I was arrested. Not for driving. For sitting. A gas station employee called the police. I was picked up for public intoxication, then charged with a felony DWI after my two priors were discovered. It was the first night of new COVID protocols. I got a hospital visit, then jail. The courts were shut down for two years. I wore an ankle monitor. I had a breathalyzer in my truck. I reported weekly. I complied with everything. For two long years.

One year in, I played drums at the White Elephant Saloon. No drinking. Just playing. But the ankle monitor caught alcohol in the air. Two violations. Two walk-throughs. $8,000 in bond fees. For playing music. Did I mention I didn’t deserve the DWI?

By April 2022, court finally came. The prosecution recommended 10 years in prison. I had a lawyer who “worked deals,” not fights. I couldn’t afford a fighter. So we agreed: 10 years felony probation.

Now, here’s the truth...

Five years and four months later, I thank God for every ounce of it. That moment saved my life. It ended relationships I didn’t need. It gave me the health, peace, and purpose I never had. It gave me God.

Today, I walk in freedom. Not from a court. From myself. This isn’t about guilt or fairness. It’s about surrender. And purpose.

If you’re battling—reach out. You’re not alone. You’re not broken beyond repair. Your worst moment could be your wake-up call.

Reach out anytime:
📩 michaelking@kingofhabits.com
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From a Testimony to a Table

Today wasn’t planned. At least, not by me.

It began like any other Saturday—I clocked into work. But something tugged on me. Gene McGuire was speaking in Fort Worth, and I knew I needed to hear his story more than I needed a paycheck. So I left. Sometimes you just know.

I grabbed breakfast at Sweetie Pie’s Ribeyes and listened to Gene’s powerful testimony of transformation and redemption, straight out of the pages of his book, Unshackled. He shared how he found Christ behind bars and what real freedom looks like. I walked out with a signed copy and a picture with Gene, but more than that—I left with a stirring in my spirit.

Still off the clock, I made a stop in Arlington to return a rented musical instrument and, as always, wandered into Barnes & Noble. At a display table, I spotted The Manifestation Journal. Next to me, a woman was browsing, and something told me to speak.

Her name was Rosie, visiting from Pennsylvania to teach DOT and EPA regulations. One comment about prompted journaling led to an invite to coffee, a conversation about writing, and a story I needed to hear. Rosie is 16 years my senior and the author of “Saint John Lennon”. My copy is already on its way.

What stood out most wasn’t just the book or the talk—it was the feeling that all of this was led. Something greater aligned each step.

I didn’t just follow a calling today—I acted on it. I became a verb.

I didn’t wish. I moved. I showed up.

Thank you, Gene. Thank you, Rosie.

To anyone reading this—

What are you manifesting?

Think it.

Believe it.

Then go do the things it takes to see it happen.

📩 michaelking@kingofhabits.com

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From Felon to Forgiven

Hello, World!

My Redemption Story on Background Check Podcast

I recently had the honor of sitting down with Jay Dan Gumm on Background Check Podcast to share my story—raw, real, and fully redeemed.

We talked about my journey through addiction, hitting bottom, and the road to sobriety. But more importantly, we talked about what life looks like on the other side—purpose-driven, Christ-centered, and fully alive.

Jay Dan is the real deal. What he’s doing through Forgiven Felons is more than a ministry—it’s a mission. He’s giving men and women a shot at new life, just like I was given.

If you or someone you love is struggling through re-entering life after prison, addiction, or starting over… take a moment and listen. You’re not alone, and it’s not over.

🎧 Listen to the episode on Background Check Podcast
📅 Join us July 20 for the next Breakfast & Devotional
📍 Details on Forgiven Felons Facebook page

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Dear Building… I Was Wrong

I was wrong.

I heard it said, “pay attention to Him, not them.”

But I didn’t. I let the system—and people just as broken as me—invade my space. I expected others to be as self-motivated as I am. I expected people to understand the saved seat at church wasn’t theirs. I expected them to stop blindly listening to the voice behind the podium and start thinking for themselves. Start reading. Start asking questions.

I was wrong.

It’s time I carry the bowl of water through the church service—without spilling a drop.
It’s time I go to build community, not ego.
It’s time I get challenged by men better than me. (Wait… that’s the easy part.)

My faith is real. My desire is too big. My hunger? Even bigger. I’ve always wanted it all.

God has had His foot on my throat for a couple years. Not because He’s angry.
But because I asked for change.

So… attention? Gone.
Crowds? Gone.
Stages and lights? Gone.
Messages, texts, and calls? Silent.
Applause? Gone.

Stillness. Quiet. Isolation.
And that’s where He met me.

Church is a building. I’m just His child. And this? It’s just one step toward home.

Dear Building,
See you soon.

"Sometimes God isolates you so you can focus on Him. Not punishment. Just preparation." — Unknown

#FaithWalk #SpiritualReset #ChildOfGod #ChurchHeart #QuietSeason #Accountability #HeIsEnough #PurposeOverPeople #KingOfHabits

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